I was sitting here thinking about how gay men couples could get babies if they could not adopt from an adoption agency. They could have a woman friend carry a baby for them, but I feel like this could create ethical issues. What if her insurance pays for her medical bill during the pregnancy, but it's not even her baby. Is that wrong? Then I realized that maybe they could still get a child (for lack of a better word) but legally they still wouldn't both be able to have the same rights for insurance and everything else because the courts wouldn't recognize both of the men as parents. So the problems that you have to get around just keep coming up. It seems like a lot of emotional situations to go through, some dealing with ethics, just to have a child. I never thought about it before, but even if you don't go through adoption agencies it is still going to be difficult for gay couples to provide for their children, because of legal issues.
Legal issues seem to be the only problem. If someone is willing to give their child to a gay couple to take care of, then the law should not interfere with what the biological parents of a child want. Maybe when a child is given up for adoption, put into a will for care, etc., the parents could specify if they think it would be alright for their child to be in that environment.

Marriage the first step?

With the way most states are interpreting their laws, it is harder for homosexuals to adopt. The law in most places allows married people to adopt. There is a lot of debate if couples aren't married who can adopt the kids. They interpret that law so that step parents can adopt, but not gay and lesbian couples.
I wonder if it would just be easier if the first fight that was fought was for homosexual marriage and then, we could go from there to fight for homosexuals rights to adopt children.
It frustrates me to realize that maybe this is the first step in the fight because it just means that everything is going to take longer to achieve.
This might be the way it has to go because of the law, even though I feel like there is a very strong fight that I feel can be put up for the well-being of the children. It is a long battle, but it almost seems to be getting nowhere.
So many places allow homosexuals to be foster parents, yet they are not able to be a couple and adopt. This makes no sense at all, but it means that some people do believe that homosexuals are capable of taking care of children.
So I wonder if homosexual marriage being recognized is the first step, or if there is some other way to fight this battle?