My Reality is Their Fairytale

I went to work the other day and one of my coworkers was so excited to tell me that he got engaged earlier in the week. I almost froze with not knowing what to say. I felt bad for him. He is gay and lives in the a country where he's going to have to move to get married or just remain engaged until civil unions are legalized everywhere in the U.S. I didn't really know what to say to him, all of my girlfriends who have gotten engaged were ready to plan a wedding and already talking about the kids that they wanted to have. My poor coworker doesn't have it that easy. Most states will not recognize his marriage if he indeed does get married and it won't be recognized on a federal level even if some do. It is heartbreaking to know that something he wants to bad is not even recognized across the country. I've known of some gays and lesbians to have had wedding ceremonies for their own significance, but maybe that isn't enough. What happens next? What happens when they want to start and family and they aren't married? That makes is hard to adopt. Adoption agencies are hard on couples who aren't married and want to adopt. What are they going to say about two men who do not even know when their marriage will be legally recognized? I just think it's horrible that what they want for a life is almost like a fairytale because it's just not possible for them now. In their hearts they know what they want and yet so many people in the world thing its wrong, for what I would say there are no good reasons.

Where do I start?

Homosexuals can't get married and have it recognized nationally, they can't file taxes together, hey have a hard adopting and they are the target of many hate crimes.
I can't quite decide why the issues that homosexuals face in their lives sticks out so prominently to me when myself nor anyone that I am close to has gone through any of it. I fell like most many of the reasons people face social discrimination is not a result of a choice that they made. Maybe I am bothered in the instance of homosexuals rights because people are still having the debate of whether or not homosexuality is a choice.
I'm very interested in arguing about same-sex marriages or homosexual adoptions, so I am trying to determine why it is that I feel so strongly for them. It is one of the few things that I'll get upset about when I discuss it with people.
So I was looking for an article to write about to start somewhere in the homosexual rights area and I wondered if I'm already to biased to write about it because I am stubborn on my beliefs. I am debating if it would be more beneficial to me to learn where I stand on some other issue.
Therefore, before actually searching for articles I feel like I need to take a step back and determine what exactly I would like to accomplish during this semester when writing my papers. Should I become more educated on a topic I know something about? Or should I take this as an opportunity to learn something totally new about something I might not have even realized was a social injustice?