My Reality is Their Fairytale

I went to work the other day and one of my coworkers was so excited to tell me that he got engaged earlier in the week. I almost froze with not knowing what to say. I felt bad for him. He is gay and lives in the a country where he's going to have to move to get married or just remain engaged until civil unions are legalized everywhere in the U.S. I didn't really know what to say to him, all of my girlfriends who have gotten engaged were ready to plan a wedding and already talking about the kids that they wanted to have. My poor coworker doesn't have it that easy. Most states will not recognize his marriage if he indeed does get married and it won't be recognized on a federal level even if some do. It is heartbreaking to know that something he wants to bad is not even recognized across the country. I've known of some gays and lesbians to have had wedding ceremonies for their own significance, but maybe that isn't enough. What happens next? What happens when they want to start and family and they aren't married? That makes is hard to adopt. Adoption agencies are hard on couples who aren't married and want to adopt. What are they going to say about two men who do not even know when their marriage will be legally recognized? I just think it's horrible that what they want for a life is almost like a fairytale because it's just not possible for them now. In their hearts they know what they want and yet so many people in the world thing its wrong, for what I would say there are no good reasons.